#love #marriage #buddhist teachings #recognise love
Well, you don’t know. You love. And that is the knowing.
The question isn’t how do you know. The question is how do you recognize love.
Many people confuse love with a kind of excitement. Love can be exciting at times, but love is not excitement. It is something like the kindness and goodwill that arise out of the rawness and vulnerability of your heart when you have given up self-deceit. No longer do you cherish an image you have of yourself or other people, you just live from your heart.
We need to love in order to recognize love. There’s a difference between someone who’s just fun and someone you can level with from the heart.
Anyone is capable of this love because it does not come from the outside. It is in your existential nature and it wells up from a place we say is within. However, look inside the next you feel stark love. See for yourself from where it arises.
Marriage is a rite of passage with societal ramifications. For some, it’s practical. For others, it’s irrelevant.
Regardless, marriage is like trying to squeeze a whale into a fishbowl. It is not a boundary by which you can define your love for your partner. Your love is your loving. It renews as every moment flows onward.
As my man Rumi said, our task is not to seek for love but to remove the limits we have put on it. That is not an external demand to go out and love everyone. It is an internal indication that we need to tear off the false barriers we have erected around our hearts, the coldness and indifference we have toward one another, the lack of sincerity in our conditioned behaviors, and a fundamental confusion assuming that we are somehow not whole in this moment.
Endeavor to allow the rawness and vulnerability of feeling from the heart. Many Tibetan Buddhist lineages are developed around that central teaching, however it applies very beautifully to our culture. Guided by the heart, you will never know a day without love.
Namaste sis :) Much love
Why do we meditate? This is a question we’d be wise to ask. Why would we even bother to spend time alone with ourselves?
First of all, it is helpful to understand that meditation is not just about feeling good. To think that this is why we meditate is to set ourselves up for failure. We’ll assume we are doing it wrong almost every time we sit down: even the most settled meditator experiences psychological and physical pain. Meditation takes us just as we are, with our confusion and our sanity. This complete acceptance of ourselves as we are is called maitri, a simple, direct relationship with the way we are."